How to get a different perspective to a coaching process, using emotional wealth and wisdom from fairy tales.

Reading fairy tales, we sometimes get astonished at the change in a protagonist when one becomes a hero. He has to combat obstacles, endures hardships and then overcomes all these problems and YES!!! always wins and becomes a Hero at the end.  Quite often in those fairy tales, a person feels lost, weak, confused, and overall stressed out.

Generally speaking, every Hero at the beginning of a journey looks like a potential coaching client. And every coaching client becomes a HERO as a result of the coaching journey.

Every person who comes to me for coaching desires a change, not a lukewarm improvement or a bit of a shift somewhere – a person feels a great massive passionate desire for a change. It is unbearable to be oppressed by that metaphorical dragon either it is stress or a feeling of being lost and living a draft version of your own life.

Using Hero’s Journey model in coaching we take the following steps:

1. A Call to Adventure.

As a Hero from a fairy tale when a client feels an imbalance in life, it is a call for adventure. It is time to do something about it.

 2. Meeting the Allies.

It requires an effort to start a journey, not everything goes smoothly. Luckily there is always support at hand. In the fairy tale, a Hero meets with allies. In real life, it is the role of a coach as a Thinking Partner to be your ally. A Hero gains his/her strengths, getting more confident with faithful allies. Now it is the time to take up those challenges – face a dragon, free a princess, find a golden goose – it’s in fairy tales.

In coaching, we build client’s confidence together, clarify goals and resolve all upcoming issues to achieve the desired outcomes in line with the client’s personal values.

3. Crossing the Threshold.

The Hero is now ready to act upon his call to adventure and truly begins his quest, whether it be physical, spiritual or emotional. So is our client taking actions, which he/she has never done before, believing in their own abilities and moving forward. Those actions signify that a person is committed to the journey and prepared to overcome each challenge presented on the way.

4. The Trials.

The trials may be a dangerous physical test or a deep inner crisis that the Hero must face in order to survive. In spite of his greatest fears, the Hero must draw upon his skills and experiences in order to overcome his most difficult challenge.

For a coaching client it is not a question of life and death, but a question of transformational change, which is a sophisticated and exciting process. It requires effort and stamina.

5. The Prize.

Thus in a fairy tale after defeating the enemy, surviving death and finally overcoming his greatest personal challenge, the Hero is ultimately transformed into a new state, emerging from a battle as a stronger person and with a prize in the form of superpowers, insights, greater knowledge.

For a coaching client achieving transformational changes at the end of the coaching process is worth to be rejoiced for! It might be the ultimate prize and a reason to celebrate.

Taking steps of Hero’s Journey* model and using them in coaching is quite daring and imaginative.

  • What do you need to succeed in real life?
  • What are those tough, thrilling and inspiring challenges?
  • What are those goals that make a compelling breathtaking change in your life?

Knowing that with your coach you can embark on the exciting journey to conquer the realms of your life is a powerful start for the coaching process.

Take the first step to become a HERO in your own life, get in touch with me and start your adventure:

info@kogancoaching.com or 07957 245635

 

*Reference: Joseph Campbell (monomyth)