My mother was born in 1941 in a town occupied by the Nazi. The birth was a difficult one, my gran lost consciousness as the women of the village finally helped deliver my mother. Feeling that rearing a child during the dreadful circumstances of the second World War would be impossible, the women threw the newborn baby in a nearby ditch. When my gran came to, she looked for child, managed to get out and found her in the ditch. She quickly gathered her in her arms vowing to care for her whatever the circumstances. They survived despite all the war atrocities thanks to my grandmother’s determination and courage.

War is never right for anything

I started with an extreme example when people considered it was not the right time Now by a different reason. ‘It is war, – they said to my gran, – you already have a toddler, don’t bother with a new-born, she will die anyway during the war.’ Maybe it was some kind of care and concern in those arguments, though I definitely prefer my mother to survive, maybe for a selfish reason – just to be born myself.

Excuse, justification or just a delay

Often time is used as an excuse, justification or just a delay while being indecisive. Time is not linear, when we think that hour comes after hour, month after month, ten years after another ten years. Remember in your childhood a day felt like an eternity filled with so many new impressions, emotions, wonders – you could never think now, that it was possibly about eight hours only. Even now in your adult life when you have an amazing journey for a few days with fabulous conversions and exciting interesting places to explore, it can feel like a month or more, not like 5-6 days. So time is rather a curious notion – it has an ability to extend, to nourish, to expand.

No man ever steps into the same river twice, for it’s not the same river and he’s not the same man. – Heraclitus

When we consider that it is not the right time, we are overlooking a simple fact that next time we are not going to be the same person either. As the saying goes – you can’t enter the same river twice.  It is not going to be the same river and it is not going to be same you.

Quite often to make time Right, it requires a leap of faith or personal courage and belief in yourself. The Belief that you’ll be able to find strengths, resources, and ways to make it right – whatever decision it was.

Alexander Makedonsky lived only 33 years and changed the course of history

Taking the big picture into consideration, how much time do you have to live? We are quite lucky in this century – we live about 70-80 solid years give or take, compare to a brief 25 years life span during the Roman Empire or life expectancy of about 33 years during the Middle Ages.

The big picture depends on personal perception as well – either I have all the time in the world or I have to rush because time is ticking. Though if we think that Alexander Makedonsky, Alexander the Great the king of ancient Macedonia, who changed the course of history for less than 13 years, lived only 33 years, we might guess he did not wait for the right time too long.

How do we define that moment when the time is right or not right?

Check the factors:

  1. Are you going to be free next year for this venture or is it just delay of the decision? 
  2. What preparations are you taking now to be ready for the next year actions?
  3. Would you think next year ‘I wish I have started it that time’?
  4. What barriers are you creating? Are they real or excuses?
  5. Is there an ideal time when you would start?

It is certainly great to help ourselves with more inquisitive questions, though listening to our own gut feeling is important to understand that it is the right time to act NOW. Next step is just to make it happen without delay. Add adventure, courage, fun to your life and believe in yourself!

It is the right time to live to the full now!